The good, the bad, and me
I was a sleepy girl when I got home Sunday night and work was work yesterday so I didn't get a chance to post (obviously). I had full intentions on touching on each of the items on my list, but you only get one. The others will have to wait for other days this week.
The weekend. While I was properly spanked by The Thing (thanks for the suggestion CC), I'm not going to discuss that. Oh wait. I just did…
We hung out in Annapolis for most of the weekend because I had never been there before. And what a beautiful weekend it was with the weather finally remembering that yes, it is indeed Spring. So Friday we saw a show here and Saturday we drank quite a bit of champagne here. Quite a well-rounded couple, aren't we?
We also celebrated The Thing's 35th birthday, which is actually today. I got him a variety of completely unromantic items, but if you knew The Thing, you would know these were perfect….Most notably, I got him this and this and, of course, I had to get this.
And something else happened over the weekend too, but I don't really feel like writing about it at the moment (ie. Fauve stuck her foot in her mouth. Again. This normal relationship thing is hard to get used to). Okay quick synopsis…Though I had every right to bring up a certain subject because it did indeed need brought up, I handled the situation badly. We all know that I have no clue how to do the 'communication' thing because I never had a partner who did it. It has always been Fauve-learned-to-keep-her-mouth-shut-because-she got-tired-of-being-yelled-at-so-it-was-easier-to-say-nothing-at-all. So I never learned proper communication skills. And now I have someone who actually cares about what I feel and what I have to say…but I have extremely limited capabilites of conveying that information. So...I said something in a way that caused The Thing pain….something I swore I would never do. And never ever want to fucking do again. This was three days ago and we of course talked about it, but yes, I am still kicking myself over it. I feel like crying now just thinking about it. I may have to actually start shelling out the money for therapy. Or just find someone who will teach me how to this. He's so patient with me...but what if his patience runs out? And what if I keep screwing up? Hurting him…of all people...
posted by ƒåυνέ @ 10:10 AM
10 Comments:
The best part of being in a real relationship with a real man instead of a paperweight is that you are allowed to make mistakes. Imagine that! It's ok to screw up. And the best part is that you both learn from it and grow together as a couple.
Also, LOVE the tie.
And (pout,pout) still waiting to be interviewed. Am I not cool enough? :(
His patience isn't going to run out, that's the awesome thing about real men.
I love the tie. It's *him*. And it's *you*.
Y'all will be fine, all you have to do is remember that he is just him, not anyone else.
Happy Birthday to The Thing! The tie soooo rocks!
You'll eventually get the whole communication thing. It's just gonna take practice. He knows your deal. He loves you. As long as you acknowledge what you've done, and talk about it, you should be fine. He sounds like a wonderful guy.
Glad the weekend went well.
Yeah, what they all said above!! You'll be fine!! It's all about learning what a REAL relationship is with a REAL man!
LOVE Annapolis, hubby went to the academy there.
Lois said it best... you are allowed to make mistakes. It's how we learn.
Annapolis?! That was almost sorta my back yard (ok, so you were about 45 miles south of me but still...) Glad you had a good time.
Loved Thing's gifts... especially the tie.
Now you know that I NEVER comment, but I had to cause I want to ditto all that was said before me and tell you.. I too was in a VERY disfuctional relationship, one that lasted for well over 20years...( I am an old bat and habits are hard to break ) anyway, to make a long story short... he did me the courtsey of dropping dead one day. Luckily for me I was found and chosen by a really NORMAL decient man. Like you I had a whole lot to learn about healthy relationships and he very patiently has helped me through all my garbage and baggage... it's been 12 years now and we are going strong in a VERY happy and healthy relationship... Thank You God! There really are Knights In Shining Armour out there, and you are too smart a girl to screw up a GOOD thing,Don't worry.
"am still kicking myself over it. I feel like crying now just thinking about it."
And that's exactly what he doesn't want you to do. He wants you to have confidence in yourself and see you as the beautiful person that he sees when he looks at you.
I know because I do the exact same thing. It's hard not to feel that way from time to time when you're so used to doing it.
And what LoisLane said, of course. You can make mistakes. You're human. That's part of what he loves about you.
His patients won't run out as long as you work on your end too. Teamwork baby. Took me YEARS to learn that. YEARS!!!
You have awesome taste in Gifts ;) An I mean awesome lol.
As for the communication issue a loving relationship is about growth, communication and compromise and I think you two have what it takes to really be happy....
He knows your history with paperweight, the thing to do is STOP beating yourself up because in a really twisted way that is paperweight still having a hold over you.
The Thing is of a higher calibre and we both know it :)
listen, so you put your foot in your mouth, you've talked it over and you've apologized, so just move it along now. You'll get the hang of it eventually but it does take a while. He seems like a very patient and loving person so relax. He doesn't sound like the kind of guy who's gonna leave because you say something stupid. We all have bad moments - reverse the roles and see how you'd react. Yeah, I thought so :)
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