It's fun to have fun, but you have to know how

I finally returned Eduardo's email. Basically, I confronted the whole Supremes issue we've been having and I haven't heard from him since.

Meanwhile, back at the farm…….

The Things are a trip. We (the Things, my girlfriend and myself) all have each others' email addys and IM information. Good times, good times…

I'm so loving the way I met Thing 1. It was purely coincidental and purely for fun. Which means there are no relationship expectations on either of our parts, unlike the way I've been meeting guys online. We can just be friends and get to know each other. Plus, which I don't think I've mentioned yet, it helps that Thing 1 lives in another state. Last weekend he was in town, which he says he does about once a month, visiting Thing 2. But we are in neighboring states and we both live fairly close to our common border. As was the case with Eduardo #1, he's close enough to visit if I want, but far enough away that I don’t have to see him if I don't want. I highly recommend this arrangement.

And….it's given me serious pause for thought. You see, I've been comparing Eduardo and Thing 1; not the men but the situations. I never went into detail with the Eduardo break-up; partly because I was hurt and partly because I think his 'reasons' were bullshit. I think he, for whatever reason, just didn't want to date me anymore and needed to make some stuff up. My belief that it's bullshit, however, doesn't stop me from thinking about it and wondering about it in relation to Thing 1. However, if Eduardo was telling the truth……well, that just makes the situation all that much weirder.

But I digress…..and I'm not making much sense. Let me explain:
Eduardo broke up with me for two reasons. First, "because we live so far apart". For the record, we live not quite an hour apart, true, which may or may not be "too far", but I work less then 15 minutes from his house.
Thing 1 lives and works three hours away from me. His first email to me said "I'd love to see you again the next time I'm in town, if not before."
So, is something to be said for Thing 1 thinking it is worth driving 3 hours to see me? Or, if a relationship develops, is it doomed to failure because we live so far apart?

Eduardo's second reason for breaking up with me is, I swear to God, music. Eduardo was a music snob and I dared to like some bands that he didn't like. Plus, he doesn't "think we share the same passion for it", referring to music in general.
Thing 1 and I met in a bar/club where three bands were playing. We both hated one, loved one, and were at odds on the third. He has very very similar taste in music to Eduardo and, like Eduardo, admits to spending large quantities of time and money on music.

This all, of course, totally creeps me out because Thing 1 could easily go in the same 'direction' as Eduardo on both counts.

However, Thing 1 and I have talked music for 4 days straight. I share my stuff that I think he would like. He shares his stuff that he thinks I would like. Eduardo cringed when he found out I was a huge NIN fan. I got a package in the mail yesterday from Thing 1 containing two rare NIN bootleg CDs.

So, it seems that not only does Thing 1 like to have fun, but perhaps, just perhaps, he also knows how.