The Great Mattress Debate
Since Girlfriend kind of brought it up in her question (there's still time to add yours too!), I figured I'd let everyone in on the fight* Thing and I are currently having. I will state both sides of the argument without telling you who's side is who's because we all know you'd just vote for me because I'm so awesome, The Thing would then reject the poll outcome, and we'd be right back at square one. Girlfriend, you are hereby prohibited from commenting on this thread because 1) you've already told me your opinion and 2) since you now know who said what, I don't want you swaying the masses one way or the other.
*For those of you who are new to this blog, the definition of us fighting is; about once every 3 or 4 months, I'll be upset about something (usually due to the fact that my marriage scarred me), we sit down and talk about it, come to a compromise/understanding, we have awesome sex and move on. The Great Mattress Debate is the closest we have ever come to a "real" fight and when I told Girlfriend about it, she laughed at me, said we were both retarded and needed to learn how to fight….
Facts:
My mattress is approximately 10 years old and is not in the best of shape.
The Thing has a bad back and my mattress makes it hurt when he stays at my place.
I've agreed that, for the above reason only, the purchase of a new mattress is warranted.
The Thing will only be using this mattress, at most, twice a month for the next 4 1/2 months, at which time, I'll be moving in with him & his bed.
If it weren't for The Thing's request, I would not be purchasing a new mattress, choosing to deal with it for the next 4 1/2 months and then tossing it before moving in with him.
Who should pay for the new mattress?
And if you are thinking of taking the easy way out and saying "each pay for half of it", don't. One of us feels so strongly about our position that the offer of a compromise has already been denied. So you'll just have to make a choice.
posted by ƒåυνέ @ 12:59 PM
21 Comments:
your back is fine right...........
8 or 10 more nights, live with it
You should. For two reasons:
1. You are moving into his home and, assumingly, bringing a LOT of stuff with you. If there is no room for the mattress in the new house, then you have "control" of said mattress and can dispose, give away, or do with it as you want w/o more problems.
2. When your oldest moves out and needs a new mattress, it'll be relatively new and unused (reference above control issues), and you can kick his ass out the door (kidding) with a six-pack and a nice new mattress.
You do because it is your matress. Then you put it in the spare room or use it on the his bed when you move there. Or give it to a shelter or the Goodwill. Or whatever. Spring for the damn matress already.
You guys are retarded.
My take? Don't buy a new mattress. He can suck it up twice a month.
And this comes from someone with a back bad enough to require a wicked expensive bed and an assortment of body pillows just to get through the night...
There's always a $50 camping air mattress for those nights he's there. I've done that in a pinch, and they're not half bad.
Ooohyeah, I'm mean... ;)
Shove a hunk of plywood under the old mattress & live with it. You can always use the plywood for some project or other after you move....you're probably gonna need some shelves built for your stuff anyway.
Pitch them both and buy a new one for when you move in with him. Having said that, BOTH of you buy it, you use it at your house till you move in, move it into his bedroom and use the other 2 elsewhere.
My suggestion for a new mattress is a Tempurpedic if you can afford it. If you can't, do what we did, it will be the best sleep your back has ever had.
Originally we were sleeping on an air mattress, but it kept deflatting. Then we put a 3" foam top on top of it. The mattress burst and we replaced it with another kind, it was thinner, so I bought a 2" foam top and put it under it. It (the air mattress) wasn't comfy so I sucked it up and bought a foam mattress off overstock.com for 300.00. It's the best sleep...EVER!
So, I have 3 foam mattress (really, a mattress and the 2 foam toppers) we sleep on.
HIGHLY recommend!
New Fact: Our mattresses & frames are two different sizes. I have a full and he has a queen.
Okay so you're moving in with each other...and both of you have old matresses...buy a new one. Who wants to sleep on a matress that an 'ex' slept on? This is a new start for the two of you and you both deserve to have something nice, new and doesn't have any history to it!
Buy a temporary new matress at his cost, and then wear the thing out due to raunchy sex before moving. ;)
..and I agree with a previous comment, if it doesn't break then just save it for your son when he moves out one day...
flip a coin
Buy a new full size mattress/boxspring set, and YOU reap the benefits of sleeping better. Then when you move, if there is room, put the new mattress in the Boy's room for him to enjoy until he goes out into the world. Then use it as a guest room bed. Trust me, you'll get more out of it and it'll be worth the money.
Hmmm... if you don't mind sleeping on it, yet he insists you get a new one, let him buy. Otherwise, he'll have to figure out a different way to be comfy until then. It seems like a colossal waste of money for some discomfort (and I know what it feels like to have horrible back pain.) There has to be a less expensive way to ease The Thing's pain... like Vicadin?
You buy it and let the boy have it after you move. When he goes off to college, he can take it- or it will make a nice size for a guest room.
Since you have a full size, that can easily be passed on to the boy. Therefore you should pay for it.
I have to agree with girlfriend though. You two are retarded.
Buy a king and toss yours out. Then when you move in with Thing, toss his out too! Now you both have a great new bed to share together. A king is MUCH better than a queen could ever be.
New Fact: The Thing started the conversation about the mattress because it's his back that hurts.
New Fact: The Thing makes more money!
- The voice from above
I'm With Amy
I'm guessing you've tried flipping or reversed the mattress and it still sucks?
Boy oh boy. You can get by with it but he would like you to get a better one. I would tell Thing to suck it up but I know what a crappy mattress will do to your back and can empathize.
Is it (the fight) a cost thing or a principles thing? Because I would think you could find a full size mattress fairly reasonable.
On second thought, throw the bed frame out and sleep with the mattress on the floor. That might give the old mattress enough support to make it another 4½ months.
Oh Good Lord, queen and full size??? King size is the way to go. So much more room for so many things...or sleep, if you're into that.
That being said, you both chip in and buy the king-size set when you move in.
First of all, I don't think you should get a new one, since there isn't that much time left. Spend the money on wine instead.
That said, YOU should buy it. Then you can give it to a child or friend or someone who doesn't mind your cooties (I'm not saying you HAVE cooties, but you know what I mean).
Now THAT being said, you two and your 'fights'. sheesh. There are fighting people in China and this is what you come up with? Or maybe that was STARVING people in China...
Flip a coin. But not just any old way, even if you are lucky sometimes. Heres a way to win flips every time.
You have to be the one who does the flipping. You'll have to figure that part out somehow. OK, so you pick up the coin and its between your thumb and index finger. Pretend you're just checking it out but make sure to notice if its heads or tails that's facing you. Whichever way is facing you will be face up when it lands, no matter how high you flip it. Practice first. Good luck!
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