Remembering
This weekend I read The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho; which, I highly recommend.
The story in itself is amazing, but what I have been thinking about the last three days is a small tale that was told within the story. It was the story of a king who knew the secret to finding true happiness.
One day, a boy went to the king's castle and asked the king to please tell him the answer; what is the secret? The king said to the boy that he was currently too busy to tell him the secret, but that the boy could pass the time wandering through the king's castle and gazing upon the wonderful beauties it held. However, there was one condition; the boy must carry with him a spoon full of oil without spilling a drop. The boy agreed and walked throughout the entire castle, returning to the king without spilling the oil. When the king asked the boy what impressed him the most about the castle, the boy was embarrassed to admit that he was so focused on not spilling the oil, that he had missed seeing everything around him.
The king sent the boy to tour his castle again, recommending that this time the boy keep his eyes open to the wonders in front of him. So once again, the boy toured the castle with his eyes wide, enjoying everything the amazing castle had to offer. Upon returning to the king, he was asked, 'but where is your oil?' and the boy found that in touring the castle, he had spilled every drop. To which the king said, 'the key to true happiness is to keep your eyes open to the joys of everything around you, but to never forget the importance of the oil you carry.'
These last few months I've been asking 'why?'....why did my marriage not work out?
Now I know. I never once spilled a drop of oil, but I was so focused on it that I forgot about everything else. Whereas The Paperweight was so focused on everything else, that he forgot about the spoon in his hand and let his oil spill.
I've read before along these lines; about myself, of course. I'm not so concerned about The Paperweight. I am, however, always concerned with my personal growth. I saw a sign once that stated, "Remember who you were before you put yourself last". So that's what I'm doing now.
posted by ƒåυνέ @ 9:10 PM
6 Comments:
Holy Shit woman! that line, "remember who you were before you put yourself last" I've been struggleing and self analyzing myself in that very line of thought for the past year. It is so hard to find "ME" time with the house, kids, job, husband, etc. I feel for you and I hope you find balance. And of course, more hot monkey sex too. :o)
Good Tuesday morning from Michele's meet and greet.
I like that quote...and wish more of us women would live by it.
Wow, that is profound. I struggle with that also, what woman doesn't? I'm trying to remember that person I used to be, but it's very hard. Thanks!
I think it's probably a struggle more for women then men, simply because we tend to be the caregivers in relationships. It is almost bred into us to put those we love first. Not that I believe that's a wrong thing to do when it comes to our children and those we take care of, but we do tend to get lost in the obligations forgetting that in order to live, we have to enjoy life as well. All of this is easier said then done and i'm trying to do the same thing.
I love your blog. How is the life of dating? Still seeing Eduardo? I hope all is well.
I read that book to "recharge"- somehow it gets me back on track. Read it just last week...
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