Good P.R.
Those of you who have been here since the beginning, or since this time last year at least, will remember the name Eduardo. No, no...not Eduardo #2 the married jerk nor the last Eduardo (#3) who dumped my ass but the orginal Eduardo who started it all. For those who weren't here, or to refresh your memories, here's the back story.
I met Eduardo through an online dating service a year ago this month. I hadn't been on a date in like 14 years so he was my foray into the dating world.
He was very handsome, well educated, employed and wanted absolutely nothing serious what so ever. Perfect! My divorce wasn't even final yet and still had plenty of relationship issues myself...but I was, uh, looking for some fun...And Eduardo met my needs nicely.
We certainly liked each other, had some nice dates and great conversation but...
Okay, let's be honest, shall we? We were fuck buddies. We both knew it, we discussed it, we had no expectations put on each other, we could date others if we wanted and that was the end of it.
This went on for a few months until I fell head-over-heels for Eduardo #3. I broke it off with Eduardo saying, basically, "I want to see what happens with this guy and that will be easier to do if I'm not fucking you while I'm dating him". Eduardo was very cool about it, asked if we could still be friends and wished me the best of luck. A few things happened:
1) We actually did remain friends and talk & email often.
2) Almost immediately after this conversation, Eduardo #3 dumped me.
3) Less then a month after that, I met The Thing.
4) Eduardo thinks that The Thing, is the one I broke it off for.
So Eduardo called last night to catch-up. We've both been busy lately and have been playing phone tag for a week now. We had your standard work-family-hobby-latest-gossip kind of conversation. Until the end.
As we were getting ready to hang up, he hesitates then says, "You know, I'm sorry I wasn't able to give you a relationship. You are a great person and deserve to be treated well. And I'm really sorry I wasn't able to do that. Thing is very lucky."
After thanking him for his kind words, I pointed out that he never treated me badly and the lack of relationship was a mutual agreement. He hesitantly agreed...then proceeded to sing my praises for a little while longer. Normally something I'd be all for....but some of his praises were, um, of a 'personal' nature...which started to make me uncomfortable.
So what did I do?
I yawned. Right in his ear.
Then excused myself and said good night.
posted by ƒåυνέ @ 10:05 AM
11 Comments:
Were the memories making you uncomfortable or just the high praises for your expertise..lol?
I can't speak for Thing but I would feel very uncomfotable knowing my significant other was still communicating regularly with a recent past lover. If the Thing knows about it and is OK with it then lucky you. Just a thought...
Very smooth... Sounds like something I'd do.
Mads...It was weird; it was like just hearing him talk about that stuff was like cheating on Thing. Weird, huh?
Oh, and for the record, Thing knows we are still friends and Thing is still friends with all (cept one) of his ex's. I've even met a couple of them. I've only had a problem with one of them (I had just cause and which I blogged about around Christmas time) and he hasn't seen or talked to her since.
I understand how that would feel like cheating in a way.
Kudo's to you and Thing not letting the past interrupt the present!
Fauvie, sounds like he was fishing to see if you'd be his 'fuck buddy' again, in my opinion. Maybe that's why it was making you uncomfortable. Good call on shutting him down with the yawn!
I think Eduardo jus realises he missed out an maybe he thought by getting a little too personal he would have one over thing in his own sordid little mind (not that I have done this, no I havent honest) Anywho it just builds on the bond you and thing have together....
Poor him he'll survive.
As long as you an Thing are happy ;)
That is exactly how I would have handled the situation. You go girl!
A well placed yawn is often the perfect escape hatch for a conversation that needs to end.
I'm thrilled that you've found happiness. You deserve it.
they always want you when you no longer want them...it's the nature of the beast..gotta love it
That poor bastard didn't know what hit him.
You gonna break off all contact with him now?
Normally, slick, I would. But I discussed this with The Thing, who is far wiser then I when it comes to all types of relationships, and he thinks I shouldn't yet jump to that extreme.
So, for now, I'll let things go and see how Eduardo acts the next time we talk. If he veers towards this direction again, I shall clearly state what my boundaries are...if he heeds these then we can continue to be friends. If not, THEN I'll break off all contact.
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