Just breathe...
Eduardo asked last night if he could come over to my house to visit this coming Saturday. Um, my house. As in, see where I live - meet my kids - my house. Yeah, freak much?
My horoscope for today:
Are you trying to restrain your feelings so the boundaries of a friendship or relationship will remain the same? Drop these efforts and you'll feel so much more relaxed and in tune with what the universe wants for you.
Fuck me...
What if I don't want what the universe wants for me? What if I'm not ready yet?!?!
posted by ƒåυνέ @ 11:18 AM
7 Comments:
My only advice would be that it's probably too soon for him to meet the kids. Good rule of dating as a single parent is that YOU date - your kids DON'T.
Bring him over when the kid's are off doing something else. That way he gets to see where you live without you having ot involve the kids. If he asks why no kids, just be straight up and say it's too soon for them, you dont need to mention it's too soon for you either...that's your business.
Maybe this would be a good weekend for them to visit Paperweight?
I'm glad to hear that you're enjoying "dating" (is THAT what they call it these days!?!)
;-)
It's one thing to MEET the kids. It's quite another thing to spend time with them in the role of "mom's boyfriend". Have him come over and meet the kids and see your place on your terms, and limit the length of the visit, so nobody gets tired of anybody too soon. Heck, your kids might be really cool with him, and he may enjoy seeing the "mom" side of you, while still appreciating the "hot chick I'm dating" side of you!
Don't do it then. Sounds like he wants to move your relationship to the next level.
RUN NOW! RUN AWAY!
Oh. Be so very careful. Go see my LJ about this : look under username: firespiral.
My teen just blew my 7 month old relationship up quite calculatingly. She made some really sick and twisted moves to get him to run. She said I should never date.
Of course, a week later she was puking vodka all over the living room.
Teens are very difficult, especially with the dating scene.
My advise: take you time to get the kids involved, no PDA's infront of the kids for a very lonnnnnnnnnng time.
Be careful about how they percieve things;their filters can cause them to say things to Dad that will give him more evidence and leverage to be a dick.
Just sayin'.
Oh hell quit your worring. Life is too short and a script is not always available so you have to turn to improve. RELAX...don't read everything into everything. Enjoy life for life's sake and deal with things as they come up just the same as if one of your kids broke a lamp. Ya gonna sit and fret about when it might happen or deal with when it does ???? Have him over, don't pick up too much of the crap lying about and see how he deals with it....:)
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